Twenties Life

Honesty is always the best policy, we all know that right?  Well, maybe. Maybe not.

Let’s paint the picture here, shall we?  You’re in a relationship with a person.  You’ve been with them for 5 years, which I think we can all agree denotes a long-term relationship.  You aren’t living together, but you intend that this is the one, this is the relationship you plan on being in for the rest of your days.

Now here’s where things get interesting:

Do you consider it important or necessary to disclose everything that happens in your life to the other person?  For you, is it necessary to share everything with that person?

Let’s throw out a couple of examples… Don’t laugh, these are serious questions.

1. You watch porn, and he/she doesn’t know.
2. Another friend shares a secret with you, that he’s cheated on his wife (who is your partner’s friend).
3. A coworker makes passes at you constantly.
4. You plan on going to lunch with two friends (one of the same sex and one of the opposite), but one backs out, and you’re left alone with a friend of the opposite sex.
5. You have magazine subscriptions that he/she might not approve of (not porn, just your average men’s/women’s lifestyle magazine).
6. He/She has never asked how many partners (sexually or otherwise) you’ve had prior to him/her.  Do you just come out with it?
7. He/she is gaining a little weight, or has managed to not take care of themselves as well lately (sharing an opinion that may be hurtful).
8. Do you tell your partner what you really think about his/her parents?
9. Your family is very conservative and your partner sometimes gets a little tipsy.  Do you share with her your thought that she might ease up on the champagne tonight and risk hurting her feelings, or do you grit your teeth and tread through?
10. He/She asks “Am I prettier/more-handsome/bigger/stronger/sexier/better-in-bed than your ex’s?”
11. “Do you ever think about him/her?”

I ask these questions not to try to change your mind, and also not to reaffirm your position. I designed these questions with a simple goal, to provoke thought.

Sometimes we get so attached to our own beliefs, we think that we know exactly how to run the game.  We sometimes forget how little we’ve actually been exposed to.  We forget that there are people everywhere who do things differently than us and some of them are more successful with their methods than we are, or some are happier.

At the end of the day, I think we all want happiness, love, trust, and security in our relationships.  We want to share all that is good, and protect our partner from all that is bad.  But what about when honesty is the causer of pain?  What do we do then?

So I ask you this, sir/madam:  Is honesty ALWAYS the best policy?

Finally, I’m going to put the age-old question to rest: No those pants don’t make your butt look big, your butt makes your butt look big, and that’s just the way I like it!

When it comes to fashion there are a lot of different pieces of advice floating around.  Some people say to boost your style you should keep up with trends, while others believe a classic, timeless look is best.  Some feel that fitting in is the best way to be fashionable, and yet others try to be completely different.  And there are some who just don’t get it at all.

Well I’m about to tell you one simple fashion tip that will boost your style no matter what (if any) of the listed categories you fall under.  I’m about to reveal to you a tip that you’ve heard over and over, but never in a fashion sense.

Get Fit.

Now read what I said carefully, because I said one thing and most of you heard another.  I didn’t say lose weight.  I didn’t say diet.  I didn’t say to cut carbs, fat, or delicious desserts.  I said to get fit.

Your level of fitness can be read almost immediately by anyone who has working eyes.  People can just look at you and tell if you’re fit.  It’s not because you’re skinny, and it’s not because your buff (although that is often a sign of fitness).  People who are fit walk with better posture, have more positive body language, and wear clothes off the rack better than their non-fit equivalent.

It doesn’t matter if you are rocking Gucci slacks, an Ed Hardy shirt, or a good ole fashion ringer tee.  The fitter person will often look better regardless.

Now here comes the implementation of that advice. Again, I’ll say one thing and most of you will hear another, so listen carefully.  Get out of the house and get active.  This means whatever you want it to.  Take a walk, a run, play a sport, play with your kids, siblings, parents, friends.  Throw a ball, a frisbee, a rock.  Climb a tree.  Stretch, do yoga, hike, kayak, swim, mountain bike, climb a mountain.  Lift a heavy object, put it down, rinse, repeat.  Learn to skate.  Do anything that makes your heart beat a little faster, and maybe even causes you to break a sweat.  For those of you wondering, yes, sex is included in this list.  Do it. Do it a lot.

Whatever physical activity you enjoy most is the one you will stick to.  And consistency is a must in fitness.  The beautiful part of fitness is that it’s transferable.  If you get really good at basketball, and decide to pick up mountain biking, you’ll already have a head start from your couch potato friend, because you are already a bit cardiovascularly conditioned.  Now you won’t be as good as your mountain biking friends, but you won’t die out there either.

A little body recomposition (turning fat into muscle) could do us all good.  Who doesn’t want a nicer back, more muscular chest, bigger butt, flatter abs, and stronger legs?  Who doesn’t want every single piece of clothing they have to look better on them than it did before?  I know I do.  I’ll bet that you do too.

So get up, get out, and get fit.  Your style will thank you later.

We’ve all heard the term aphrodisiac; you know, the foods that “arouse sexual desire.”  Well here at TwentiesLife we’ve decided to dig up a little history, dispel a couple of myths, and present you with the top 10 sexiest foods of all time.  Some of the choices may seem a little strange, but when you read the reasons why we chose them, we’re sure you’ll agree.  Enjoy.

Asparagus

English herbalist Nicholus Culpepper wrote in the 17th century that asparagus “stirs up lust in man and woman.”  In 19th century France, grooms were served 3 courses of these spears at their prenuptual dinner.  And apparently there was good reason to do so.  As it turns out, asparagus is a great source of potassium, fiber, vitamin B6, vitamin A, vitamin C, thiamin and folic acid.  The last is said to boost histamine production necessary for reaching orgasm in both males and females.

Almonds

Almonds have been regarded as symbols of fertility throughout antiquity.  The aroma of the almond is said to arouse passion in women, as it was thought by poets and scribes.  Alexandre Dumas dined on almond soup each night before meeting his mistress.  Samson wooed Delilah with the romantic nuts.  Providing large amounts of vitamin E, magnesium, and fiber, almonds are great for improvement of general health.

Avocados

Voluptuous, curvy, and sexually shaped, avocados have been associated with both male and female sexuality.  The aztecs called its tree the “testicle tree.”  They thought the fruits hung in pairs on the tree resembling male testicles.  The spanish thought avocados so obscenely sexy that the Catholic priests forbade them to their parishioners.  The deliciously creamy fruit is especially good for pregnant women due to its high content of folic acid, as well as vitamin B6 and potassium, and they are great for improving immune function.

Banana

As if the shape of this fruit weren’t sexy enough, it is also a fantastic, complete meal.  It is loaded with potassium, magnesium and B vitamins, as well as chelating minerals and the bromelain enzyme, which is said to enhance the male libido.  Maybe this is why Central Americans drink the sap of a red banana as an aphrodisiac, and why the Hindus regard it as a symbol of fertility.  Did you know that a banana left on a doorstep indicated that a marriage is about to take place?

Chocolate

Women love it.  Men do too.  Wanna know why?  Because “the food of the gods” contains theobromine, a stimulating alkaloid similar to caffeine.  It helps the brain produce feel good serotonin as well.  Remember to indulge in the dark variety, which contains fantastic amounts of antioxidants, rather than it’s fatty, less nutritious sibling, milk chocolate, which is basically just that, milk and trace amounts of cocoa.

Eggs

The egg is probably the most ancient symbol of fertility known.  They are high in vitamins B5 and B6, which balance hormones and relieve stress.  Eggs eaten before sex are considered to enhance one’s libido.  Nothing like a omlet to get the foreplay started, right?

Oysters

The classic aphrodisiac.  Everyone’s heard about this one, and that’s because there is research to support it: raw oysters are very high in zinc, which raises sperm and testosterone production, thus increasing libido.  Like some fish, oysters are also high in omega-3 fatty acids, which is known to increase overall well being and even to fight depression.  They are also a great source to replenish dopamine.  No wonder Casanova ate 50 raw oysters a day.

Honey

The “Nectar of Aphrodite,” and the root of the word honeymoon, honey was an encouraged drink to newlyweds, to increase fertility and add sweetness the marriage in ancient times.  It’s sweet, sticky, and delicious, and tastes good on ANYTHING.

Garlic

The heat of garlic is said to stir up sexual desires.  When shared between two lovers, it’s sure to stir up some heat.  Garlic has been used for centuries to cure everything from the common cold to heat ailments.  This is a good time for moderation.  A garlic pasta sauce can lead to something even spicier in the bedroom later.

Steak

Not often considered to be a romantic food, and definitely not considered to be an aphrodisiac, many people still consider steak to be one of the most romantic meals.  In fact, it’s probably one of the top foods ordered by people on a date.  Steak is more than likely ordered because of it’s extravagant price, though many couples may choose steak to enjoy on special occasions.

So there you have it folks, TwentiesLife’s top 10 Sexiest Foods of All Time.  Think another food should have made the list?  Leave a comment below and we’ll add it to the honorable mention.

Jubilee

Must:

I ventured out of my bubble and ran into a great place last year. I’ve been going back to Jubilee over and over again. It’s like a secret hole in the wall boutique that no one knows about unless you’re ‘in the know’. Whether you’re new to Houston or a Houstonian seeking something new Jubilee is a great place to come by. Rare finds like refurbished furniture, unique clothing and accessories will leave you wanting more! I spoke with owner Kristal Kirksey to find out a little bit more about this deliciously delectable boutique.

Jubilee has ‘deliciously elegant fine foods & housewares’ once you stop in you always want to go back! Very similar to finds at the Nutcracker Market that happens here in Houston every December, that provides one of a kind home goods that have a unique feel to Houstonians, except Jubilee is open year round…so good for you! If you have a unique style and love rare finds you might not want to tell many so you get it all to yourself! It’s a great place right in the heart of old town Houston!

If you are looking for vintage inspired pieces to add to your wardrobe definitely stop in! Also, Jubilee still has a few rodeo pieces in stock from early March in their collection – flirty pinks and white rodeo skirts are a must have. So cute with those vintage boots you just purchased for the rodeo! Kirksey also adds that ivories, whites, and baby pinks are big for the spring and are a must at her boutique. I tried on and pictured a few of the outfits that were definitely some of my favorites.

(click the pictures to see the full versions)

‘Let them eat cake!’

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

The tags read ‘Eat Me’ & “Drink Me’

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

An Alice Inspired Dress

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

‘And she tried to fancy what the flame of a candle is like after the candle is blown out, for she could not remember ever having seen such a thing.’

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

‘”I am real!” said Alice, and began to cry.’

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

‘No wonder you’re late. Why, this watch is exactly two days slow.’

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

A majority of the outfits that I have paired together give off a flirty spring feel, a Marie Antoinette touch, and an Alice and Wonderland vibe. I wonder if it’s because I am obsessed with all of the above or if it’s because the boutique is in the now. I think that it is a combination of both!

I love the vibe that this boutique has and it is definitely one of my favorites!

Lust:

The furniture and chandeliers are definitely one of a kind so if you are looking for pieces like these for your home it is definitely worth the trip to stock up on home goods like these! The pieces have a vintage charm and a modern flair. Kirksey adds charming pieces to her collection with funky eggplant, lime green, light pink, blue, & hot pink colors to her growing antique furniture collection making it a perfect piece for any home.

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

Mad Hatter arrangement hand made by Jubilee Boutique

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

Retro Clock

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

Stop in and tell owner Kristal Kirksey hello and that you saw her boutique in Haili’s Flavor of the Week! Enjoy!

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

Photo Credit: Mallary Zwiercan Photography

Beauty Products of the Week:

S Factor by TIGI

S Factor – Color Savvy is great for all hair types. #1 on my list right now for hair care shampoo and conditioner. Leaves hair shiny and gives a bit that extra ‘umph’ that’s needed after blow drying. Has an absolutely fabulous smell too! Round brush your hair for better results when blow drying.  Now let me upgrade you! S Factor also now has a new version of shampoo of conditioner a revamped S Factor called Diamond Dreams. Also a fabulous choice!

Listens of the Week:

Check out the album Contra from Vampire Weekend. With tunes like “Contra” and “White Sky” this is a great listen to get you through a long week. This album has a modern feel and a great new sound for 2010. Pop it in your car on the way to work to help jump start your day! Add it to your ipod for the work out you’ve been dreading I know it’ll help get your through! Enjoy it! I think you’ll love it.

Have a listen to “White Sky”.

I hope that you enjoyed your new boutique of the week, your fabulous hair products, and the great tunes! Have a great week. Enjoy!

So, you’ve read Wardrobe Essentials: The Closet Cleanup and looking to update your wardrobe? First and foremost, congratulations on taking the first step. When buying dress shirts, it can be like deciphering another language. Why is a dress shirt at Wal-Mart $9.99 while another dress shirt at an upscale store is over $800? What’s the difference? They both feel soft,  have two sleeves, a collar, and buttons. What so special about a dress shirt? That’s the purpose of this article, to make our readers aware of the types of shirt out there to buy and stay away from.

Before we enter this path of enlightenment, two questions need to  be asked. What is a dress shirt and what is its purpose in a man’s wardrobe?

A proper dress shirt is a button-up shirt with a collar, long sleeves, and wrist cuffs. Its “secret” mission is to elegantly frame the wearers face and be the foundation of any outfit; be it enhancing a jacket or the centerpiece of an outfit.  Changing certain characteristics (i.e. color, texture, pattern), a dress shirt can be relay the message of sport, leisure, or formal.

Proper Fit:

When it comes to properly fitting a shirt to one’s body, 99% of men (slight exaggeration) get it wrong. Reason? Because ready-made garments from a mass produced name brand are meant to fit a wide variety of body types. If the shirt fits us in the neck, it fails in sleeve length. If the length of the sleeves fit, it’s an EPIC fail on the body of the shirt; which bulges around the stomach to make one appear like a deflated hot  air balloon. The answer to this problem is simple, find a tailor.

Other characteristic to look for when deciding the fit on a shirt:

1. Allow 2 fingers in the collar when unbuttoned
2. Be tight enough around the wrists, so that the cuffs must be unbuttoned to remove the shirt.
3. To make sure the shirt isn’t too tight or loose, check to see if you are able to pinch out 1-2 inches of fabric. If you can, the shirt is of good fit.
4. The shoulder points on a shirt must not go beyond the shoulder.
5. Sleeves should be long enough so that when arms are raised the cuffs  don’t pull drastically down your forearm. On the other side of the coin, they should be short enough so that u don’t have more than one inch of fabric gathering around your cuffs when your arms are relaxed.

Dress Shirt Fabric:

Cotton:  Quite possibly the most used and best fabric to use for everyday wear and for any occasion. I t’s durable, soft, conducts heats and moisture well, and can be ironed.

Man-Made Fibers:  Shirts that contain man-made fibers are typically the blue light specials. They are usually wrinkle free  and stain resistant. Man-made fibers aren’t the best when it comes to heat and moisture conduction, so when buying a shirt that has man-made fibers, stray away from shirts that have more than 50% man made fiber. When under a budget, these dress shirts are always an alternative to cotton.

Silk: The platinum standard of dress shirts, but not recommended for everyday use. This is because eof their low durability and high costs.

Shirt Collars:

Point Collars – Are called so because the collar points at angles being at or less than 60 degrees. Point collars draw the eye downward, which elongates the face. The majority of shirts sold nowadays are of the point collar variety

Spread Collars – Are titled so because of the collar cutting at angles greater than 90 degrees. Excellent for men with a medium to long face, because they widen the face.

Shirt Cuffs

Button Cuffs – Can be worn for any event; casual or formal.  The most formal version of a button cuff is known as a barrel cuff (pictured) which has two buttonhole and two vertical buttons.

French Cuffs –  Usually designated for formal occasions, and is characterized by a double cuff that has to folded back and fastened by cufflinks. This style gives off a distinctive elegant appearance.

Dress Shirt Buttons

Typically made of plastic and is fairly strong. Low end shirts will have buttons made of low quality resin that will crack and break within a year. So next time a shirt button breaks after a wash or after a few wears, know that the shirt is made of very low quality materials and you should be seeking out a better quality shirt.

A more decadent alternative to plastic buttons is Mother of Pearl. So hard that they actually break needles, they are only found on higher end clothing. But be wary, they disintegrate over time when exposed to harsh detergents.

As your reading this your probably thinking, what is the point in worrying about these seemingly unimportant and stupid characteristics in a shirt? The answer is simple: Details matter. Regardless of how much people want to talk about this issue, the most powerful statement you will ever make is not verbally but non-verbally. We only converse and connect with a small percentage of the people we actually see. Your body language and what you wear speaks for you. Your shirt is the centerpiece of your wardrobe. Let it convey the message you want.