It turns out that dating is a science. If you don’t have all of the important ingredients, you just aren’t going to get the reaction you are looking for. So you want to get the guy, huh? Of course you do. And chances are they want you too. The only problem is you are doing things that ruin it before it even had a chance. I’m going to help you identify some of those things, and you can take steps to improve them, so he can get the best chance to see you for you.
Here are 10 of the biggest reasons you probably aren’t getting the guy.
- You don’t show interest – I’ll be honest. We (guys) are pretty dumb when it comes to a girl being interested. We can tell if a girl is interested in a friend of ours, but we never realize you are interested in us. If you aren’t direct, if you aren’t stealing glances and batting those eyelashes, we’ll never even notice.
- You show too much interest – I know, I know, it’s crazy. First you aren’t showing enough, then you show too much. But balance is the key. We aren’t interested in girls who are too easy to get. It makes us think we can do better. And, sadly, many of us do think like that. Walk that line of interest and then take it back. Keep him on edge.
- You act brainless – If TV in the 90s taught us anything it’s that hot chicks are dumb. And apparently you caught that as well. Because I see some girls acting like they are missing a few brain cells, when I know full well that they are smart, sexy girls. Don’t dumb it down for him. Hook him with your brain and your body.
- You are high maintenance – unless you are going for a metrosexual, most guys find girls that take hours to get ready unattractive. If it takes that long for you to look good, we start to wonder just how bad you must look without all that prep time. If it looks like it took longer to get ready than the date will actually last, we’ll probably just move on.
- You are invisible – Have you ever been out with friends and you didn’t even realize someone was there? That’s the invisible feeling some of you are giving off. Join in the conversation. Be fun. Be active. Socialize. Make your presence known, and we’ll notice you.
- You bad talk people – Some guys will chalk this up to girls being girls, but many of us can’t stand it. If you talk crap about your own friends behind their backs, what are you going to say about our friends, or worse, about us? Just don’t do it.
- You party too hard – No guy wants to be dating the girl that gets messy drunk at the party. Don’t be that girl.
- His friends don’t like you – Guys have a real ego when it comes to their friends. It actually takes quite a while for you to take priority over the guys. If you don’t win over his friends, there is a good chance you won’t win him over either.
- You don’t have a life – Guys like girls who have their own things going on. It’s sexy. Especially girls with non-professional skills like dancing, singing, musical instruments, sports, writing, etc. We go crazy for girls with special talents, and it keeps us wondering what else she’s talented at.
- You try to fix him – He’s gonna be him, and the last thing he wants is some girl trying to “fix” him. If he didn’t like himself just the way he was, he would change. And there is no reason for him to change for some broad he just met. Let him be him, and if that’s not good enough, move on.
So there you have it. These are some of the biggest reasons he’s not into you. Many of these are easy to fix, you just have to practice. Of course not all guys have the same interests, and some guys won’t mind some of the things above. But as a general rule, if you can avoid these “mistakes” you’ll have better chances with the fellas.
What are some things you’ve done that really “botched” your chances with a fella?
